Want change? Change something.
Often times we want things to be different. but we don't want to have to do things differently.
But, in order to get a different outcome, we have to explore a different behavior to land us in a different place. There could be many reasons why we are ambiguous about the goals that no doubt are the most important to us, but the bigger question to ask ourselves is are these goals in alignment with what we value most?
Want 6 pack abs?
OK. The people that prioritize lean body fat over all else, make many sacrifices and tradeoffs for that goal. They minimize socializing in food settings and refrain from any alcohol drinking. Their diets are weighed and measured, planned and prepped to a T, and deviations from their diet are measured and calculated far in advance. Training is prioritized, usually 7-14 hours a week.
Maybe you just want to look good in your clothes and feel good. Because you want to be confident and have lots of energy for your kids.
Ok. Now we have something. And we have to change somethings in order to get a new outcome. What does your alcohol consumption look like? That's first. First because we can't loose body fat if we are feeding it a steady stream of sugar. Second because it depresses the Central Nervous System, it controls the activities of the body and why do we want to depress it? Third because it's leftover side effect, besides unwanted weight gain is anxiety. And who wants that? I am not suggesting you give up all drinking, I am asking you to reflect on your values and see how important it is to you, and notice if your habits fit your idea of a healthy lifestyle or do your habits border an unhealthy lifestyle and is it in conflict with your goals....of wanting to look good in your clothes, feel good, and have lots of energy for your kids.
Alcohol is just one example. As a Nutrition Coach, this is where I would look first to start a habit change. But there is so much more, we could dig into. Keeping it simple. One thing at a time. Making choices that are in alignment with YOU.
Values driven goals + action = the life you want.
We all want a good life. A meaningful life. Sometimes there is a conflict between the way we used to behave, the way we are behaving now, and the way we need or want to be behaving. We feel anxious and ambiguous about the change we need to make, because often we are slightly afraid of what we will have to give up and how it will effect others also. But trust that if you are changing behavior because its' more in alignment with your values, your heart, and you make definitive action toward change, you will be relieved of your anxiety and you will be building the life you want.
Be the Change